People are more afraid of moving on than they are of letting go. We have heard this said many times: you need to let go. In most cases the people being told to let go have the knowledge and conviction of why they need to do it or better still why the must let go. The hardest thing to grapple with is how they move on from there. They are afraid of stepping into the unknown. They don’t want to start over. They simply don’t know how to carry on from a bad and toxic work place, an abusive relationship, a toxic friendship, etcetera. Here is what I’ve learnt from other wise people;
1. If you have had a bad experience in an abusive toxic relationship for a given number of years and you think you’ve had so much time you don’t want it thrown away; ask yourself if you would want to have another round of given unhappy time. Do you want the rest of your life to be like what you’ve had ? Probably not.
2. If you recognise that you must let a situation or person go, don’t focus on the fear of what will be. By stepping out of this space, you’ll open the door to a world of possibilities and have the world as your oyster. Worry not about failing to move. It will certainly not be easy for everyone but everyday purpose to live and move and be. One step at a time. Place one foot before the other and then lift another foot and put it forward. Repeat this so many times everyday and you’ll see that you can move after all.
3. The pain will be there. One day it may get easier. Maybe it won’t completely disappear for some. Maybe a very small tiny spot will remain as a reminder and for some they’ll be lucky to see their darkness turn into day and all their world turned into a beautiful dance of joy. You simply have to believe that whatever the case things do get easier with time.
4. You owe it to yourself to seek happiness, to give better to yourself. If that means letting go of your own toxic energy, people that suck the positive energy out of you, places and situations that pull you down and make you less of who you are… Let them go. You owe it to yourself.
5. Sometimes you may have to even let go of some good stuff and simply waiting to see what belongs to you return. Then it will be truly yours. At times clinging on may be bringing you pain especially in situations where love, respect or loyalty is not reciprocated or an idea or opportunity is being forced but it’s simply not the time.
Those are my random thoughts. Feel free to make comments and contributions.
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