Tag: Healing
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Tell them, show them you love them.
The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words never said and deeds never done. We often assume that they should know how much we love them. But we should never assume, we should let them know.
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Happiness in moments
If happy should be a destination, an aspiration, a goal, then what happens after and beyond happy? For something as fleeting, happy should only be enjoyed in moments; small and big ones alike. Like wind, moments sip through our hands. There is no constant grand pristine state of being or existence, unless you should be…
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Joy, be my guest
Come rushing like a hurricane, Come sprinkling like a drizzle, Come calming like a gentle breeze, Come blossoming like a flower, Come soothing like a healer, Come healing like a kiss, Come warming like a blanket, embracing like a hug, Come speaking hope like the good preacher professes, Come touching these dark hollow places and…
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Take care of yourself
” Take care of yourself so that when the people you love fall, your arms will be strong” Jennifer Laurence You should be self full to the point of overflowing in order to reach, touch and bless others. I used to fear self love because I mistook it for selfishness. There is a difference between…
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Love and Nurture
It’s often said that one shouldn’t speak about children and raising them unless they have had children of their own to raise. And yes, I absolutely believe that. I know nothing about raising one but I know a few things about being raised. Today I randomly came across a conversation between TD Jakes and Steve…
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Make mistakes …
“Make mistakes but don’t regret them. Regret is the hardest thing to carry when you get older.” This is the best advice I have heard today. Recently I had a huge imposter syndrome moment which is largely attributable to a period in which I had a long spell of fails and losses. I had lost…
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Love yourself with tenderness.
When you love yourself, be deliberate and tender. You are uniquely you and no one can be a better you. You are God’s gift to the world; His masterpiece. When you look at yourself, say those same sweet things to you that you’d say to the person you love. Be unconditional while at it. Invest…
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Do You Cry Too?
I admit it: I’m a “crier.” I sometimes cry during the national anthem; I’ve sometimes cried at an airshow when I feel the power and agility and precision of fighter jets. I cry during movies. Just last night I was watching a series of the history of Southeastern Conference Football, and I found myself […]…
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Self-care doesn’t mean that you’re selfish.
Self-care doesn’t mean that you’re selfish. It’s in fact the very opposite of selfish. The better you are at taking care of yourself; physically, mentally, spiritually, the better you will be at taking care of others. The more filled we are with self love and care, the more we are able to give of ourselves.…
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If you have one side of the story, you might be hurting someone on the other side of that story.
The other day I watched a video of someone trashing their partner and saying how this person was a terrible person, a bad mother, a bad wife, he was crying and shedding serious tears. This is a calm person unlike his partner in question who is a vibrant personality, sometimes controversial in her sense of…
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My home is shaken.
You know what they say about home being where the heart is? My home has always been with a person. It’s no place. Every place I have lived has only been a place I lived but never home. The one constant has been my mother’s presence and wherever she is has always been home for…
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Deliberate presence.
Be present More than talk, speak When you speak, be mindful of what you communicate When you hear, listen Hug them and then some – embrace them Don’t simply be awake, be aware When you look at them, try to see them. Judgement is easy and light, try empathy
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……, BUT …
Many times comes right after saying something good. After bestowing confidence on yourself or on someone else with compliments and love or with strength, light and flowers and all that is brilliant. Then comes the BUT. Everytime someone utters the three letters, in the mind of the recepient it’s like everything else is erased. Whatever…
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Appreciate what you do have here and now.
If you stop worrying about what you don’t have maybe you’ll appreciate what you do have. Many times in life we are stuck in the dark places of our lives; the dirt corners, the undesirable family history, the failed dreams and unrealized goals, the hidden scars (physical, spiritual and/or emotional), the missteps, lost or never…
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The man in the arena.
Let me borrow the words of this wise man, Theodore Roosevelt. He says, “ It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena,…
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Healing….
A part of how we cope with our trauma is by building walls. We build walls of mistrust such that we are always on the defence. We shield ourselves from love in the long run. We unfortunately also are building a fence to keep out every thing good that comes with people while we are…
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Believe them.
When someone shows you who they are believe them. Like the good old saying goes, “Actions speak louder than words” they say. If someone is blunt enough to tell you the truth or if you are able to listen to what they are saying with their words and what’s being implied or not said, also…
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Appreciate yourself.
Okay, I did “steal” that from Jay Sherry’s Instagram . But that’s because it spoke to me in the moment. It really is easy to see flaws because after-all they are a bump on the whole big skin, a spot on an otherwise perfect surface, a bend in an otherwise flawless shape or line. Point…