I have heard that, “Just because you are thirsty doesn’t mean you should drink poison” .
It’s true that sometimes people also say, “I’ll make do with what I have”. That shouldn’t be the same with the people and relationships we choose especially romantic relationships and eventually marriage.
I am happy for people who have found their soulmates, better halves, love of their lives and all things beautiful and aspirational. I’m also weary of the lives of those who have found themselves with people who are more of a pain to them, a thorn in the side that they have to live with simply because they have obligated themselves to do so. Someone said to my friend the other day, “Just get a man and marry”. The gravity and absurdity of the statement makes one wonder what the lives of these people are meant to be like should they indeed go ahead and simply get someone and marry.
People are not looking for the deeper stuff – Emotional connection, spiritual meaning, a Spiritual journey and a spiritual connection; an intimate union, friendship…… And they make someone else seem abnormal for thinking of things as such.
I know that love exists and I’m holding out for it (I’m not talking about someone just spitting the words “I love you” out of their mouth; I’m talking about the experience of loving and being truly loved). I’m holding out because if I don’t get love, I don’t want to experience the alternatives. Maybe in someone’s mind this is soft and naive but that’s okay. For me to live is to love and to be loved. I will receive love in all it’s beautiful forms but I will not accept less, anything or nothing simply because I can’t find love.
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