Category: family
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Lord, I give you all the days of the rest of my life.
For whatever reason, today I am thinking about getting old. What will my legacy be ? What stories will be told about me ? What stories will I tell ? Who will I tell them to? Who will be in my life ? How will my days be ? What will my last 20 years,…
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The opposite of love could be fear
Sounds strange, right ? But indulge my rambling ponder for three minutes: I once heard Trevor Noah say he kept his circle very small and didn’t make friends easily because he fears to put someone in a position where they could fail him; and that he in turn didn’t want to put himself in that…
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Tell them, show them you love them.
The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words never said and deeds never done. We often assume that they should know how much we love them. But we should never assume, we should let them know.
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I see you.
Maybe it’s not all of you, but I see a lot of you, more of you than you purpose to give. The joy, the smiles, the depth. I see the fire, the zeal, the intellect, the wisdom, the hustle, the grind, the power of your will. I see how you knock down walls, how you…
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Take a pause
Life can move so fast; sometimes at my busiest, I don’t remember on Friday what happened on Monday. There have been too many microevents. It’s better to take a pause. Stop and look around before you miss life as it is unfolding. The world as it is today seems to have different settings in this…
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Tender souls
Gazing into the dark, holding gentle hands, I know not to let my mind wander because golden moments are simply what they are, and that’s what I’ll take this for. I don’t know what love is. I only know that I want you well. Your joy is my joy, your hurt pains me. Your touch…
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On the good days
There won’t always be good days, but on the good days, I’ll be eternally grateful that I am on this beautiful journey. Every bit and piece, every stop and turn, every encounter is what makes it worthwhile. It’s like the strokes of the artist’s brush, painting the best work of art. It is what makes…
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My little brother is my inspiration in this season….
…….and quite frankly, he is putting an indelible mark on me. This boy is 12. He has such a strong build for this age and thinks like he’s walked on this earth surface before. Some people get this while others don’t, as they voice observations that come off as completely indifferent to a child’s emotions.…
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Love and Nurture
It’s often said that one shouldn’t speak about children and raising them unless they have had children of their own to raise. And yes, I absolutely believe that. I know nothing about raising one but I know a few things about being raised. Today I randomly came across a conversation between TD Jakes and Steve…
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To dream
“Sometimes the ultimate dream is to be able to dream at all.” If there is anything a child should be given in their childhood and possibly to every adult daily on their lofe’s journey, it should be the space and the freedom to dream and the tools to act on their dream.
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Forward with hope
Isn’t this why we have a large windscreen for the front view and a small sidemirror to look back ? (Metaphorocally and literally so). Just because you were disappointed yesterday does not mean that you will fail tomorrow. Cheers to getting up and showing up everyday.
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Love yourself with tenderness.
When you love yourself, be deliberate and tender. You are uniquely you and no one can be a better you. You are God’s gift to the world; His masterpiece. When you look at yourself, say those same sweet things to you that you’d say to the person you love. Be unconditional while at it. Invest…
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Do You Cry Too?
I admit it: I’m a “crier.” I sometimes cry during the national anthem; I’ve sometimes cried at an airshow when I feel the power and agility and precision of fighter jets. I cry during movies. Just last night I was watching a series of the history of Southeastern Conference Football, and I found myself […]…
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If you have one side of the story, you might be hurting someone on the other side of that story.
The other day I watched a video of someone trashing their partner and saying how this person was a terrible person, a bad mother, a bad wife, he was crying and shedding serious tears. This is a calm person unlike his partner in question who is a vibrant personality, sometimes controversial in her sense of…
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My home is shaken.
You know what they say about home being where the heart is? My home has always been with a person. It’s no place. Every place I have lived has only been a place I lived but never home. The one constant has been my mother’s presence and wherever she is has always been home for…
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I am not sure I want to be a white gown bride.
Growing up I did not dream of my wedding day like most girls. I didn’t dream of the big white gown and long veil. I was more obsessed with my education and growing into a somebody, a respectable adult who is in any form and magnitude adding value to my society. I’m still working on…
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Just someone, anyone. Just something, anything.
I have heard that, “Just because you are thirsty doesn’t mean you should drink poison” . It’s true that sometimes people also say, “I’ll make do with what I have”. That shouldn’t be the same with the people and relationships we choose especially romantic relationships and eventually marriage. I am happy for people who have…
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Deliberate presence.
Be present More than talk, speak When you speak, be mindful of what you communicate When you hear, listen Hug them and then some – embrace them Don’t simply be awake, be aware When you look at them, try to see them. Judgement is easy and light, try empathy