This question has a certain tone of animosity to it. It is void of basic human compassion . I mean especially for the people who use this statement to say: ” If you were raped 5, 10 years ago you should have spoken then. If you stayed in an abusive relationship it probably didn’t hurt enough to force you out. ”
This kind of attitude often confirms to victims of abuse that the world is as hostile and cruel as they had feared. Many times people who are suffering with whatever kind of pain are afraid that no one will believe them, they will be blamed (which happens a lot), they will not be helped, they’ll be abused by their perperators even more if no one comes to the rescue, they’ll be called crazy, they will be misunderstood.
Whatever time one takes to gather enough will power and strength to speak their truth, dear world; let us begin at a point of compassion and support. There is no gain in laughing or mocking someone else’s in their pain. Such repugnant behaviour deminishes the basic fibre of human kindness towards others. Our sufferings are different and we can never understand the pain someone else has endured without walking in their shoes. The least we can do is understand that if it hurt them so bad that they suffered through and over time, we as the human tribe owe them a hand in their struggle to rise from the ground they have felt pressed into for so long.
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