Tag: mental health
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The opposite of love could be fear
Sounds strange, right ? But indulge my rambling ponder for three minutes: I once heard Trevor Noah say he kept his circle very small and didn’t make friends easily because he fears to put someone in a position where they could fail him; and that he in turn didn’t want to put himself in that…
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Joy, be my guest
Come rushing like a hurricane, Come sprinkling like a drizzle, Come calming like a gentle breeze, Come blossoming like a flower, Come soothing like a healer, Come healing like a kiss, Come warming like a blanket, embracing like a hug, Come speaking hope like the good preacher professes, Come touching these dark hollow places and…
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Holding the relatable story
It’s quite easy Everytime someone listens to another person tell their story, their experience to immediately think: “I know what you’re talking about. I’ve been through that. I have a relatable experience. “ The thing is though, that you haven’t listened to their story and much as it may have similarity(ies) to yours, this is…
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Whatever you think you want from someone else,….
“Whatever you think you want from someone else, Give it to yourself first.” ~Unknown~ No one knows how to love you like you know. No one knows how to validate you like you can. As the world sees you love yourself, the world learns how to love you. Most of our frustration with people comes…
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Deliberate presence.
Be present More than talk, speak When you speak, be mindful of what you communicate When you hear, listen Hug them and then some – embrace them Don’t simply be awake, be aware When you look at them, try to see them. Judgement is easy and light, try empathy
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The man in the arena.
Let me borrow the words of this wise man, Theodore Roosevelt. He says, “ It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena,…
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Meaningful Conversation
I have this friend who has taught me what it means by conversation. She has very strong opinions and I too have very strong opinions. We agree on principle and mostly disagree when it comes to context. We have lots of conversations about so many things ranging from Spirituality (Faith/God), relationships, family, work, career, cultures,…
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Forgive yourself for what you did in your survival mode.
And now moving forward, the best of your energies needs to be focused on what you do next to continue on the healing journey, rebuilding and thriving. You are here only because you survived. Celebrate your wins, acknowledge your strength, be kind to yourself and gentle to your soul.
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Fight.
Don’t give up. Go to bed everyday with the hope of tomorrow’s dawn. Wake up everyday, dress up and show up. Trouble don’t last always. Whatever you’re going through shall pass. When you have overcome this battle, you’ll be better for it. You will be okay, more than okay after it has passed. Survivor is…
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Walk tall
Walk tall when you see from a fall. Dust yourself and rise. You loved, you fought, you lost. You came, you showed up and showed out. That’s okay. Get on up and stand on your feet; shoulders back and square, chin up, eyes forward and walk tall. The greatest shame is what we carry within…
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Happy alone ?
What I mean is I am comfortable , confident and stable. I love so deeply and so tenderly I give everything there is in my heart to give And that is scary Because I don’t know about others. It is stable on this ground. So, what I mean by I am happy alone is that…
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Hurt is hurt
It is true that no one can tell the extent and the depth of someone’s pain until or unless you have walked in their shoes as that person. In other words, even if you walked in their shoes, unless you are that person you can not fully comprehend how someone hurts and how much they…
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Words that old school parents only insinuate.
I love you. There is a category of parents from different tribes, ethnic groups, nationalities, …through different continents who just won’t say they love you. They can go to the Moon and back for you. They in fact do things that prove this. They will rip the coat off of their own back to cover…
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#1 “Why are you coming out now ?”
This question has a certain tone of animosity to it. It is void of basic human compassion . I mean especially for the people who use this statement to say: ” If you were raped 5, 10 years ago you should have spoken then. If you stayed in an abusive relationship it probably didn’t hurt…
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Happiness is not a destination
It is really easier to live in anticipation of a future filled with happiness, a destination with no sorrow where there are no tears, no pain. It gives us hope to go through the crappy days. It gives us a reason to live through the day and keep breathing through the night. It is the…
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Allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling.
Being human is not about feeling happy all the time. It’s about feeling everything. However you feel is the right way because there is no right way to feel; only a right way to respond, behave and carry yourself. Should you even feel a lot of things at the same time, it’s okay. I have…
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Sad and depressed? Get out of bed.
During COVID some family interactions have been enhanced, others deterred by different factors, friendship mostly exchanged through phones and for people who have depression, this time may easily become a catalyst to it. On our worst days, the greatest task, (this I recently learnt) is to; get out of that bed and get your butt…
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Nobody can be strong all the time.
There is a common phrase that goes for most people who have overcome adversity, small and big. Everyone wants to refer to them as strong, resilient, forts and fortresses, heros and sheroes. The applause that comes with their achievement is always jarring and tear jerking. It’s beautiful when you overcome. The sad truth also is…