This is a common cliche. We tell our friends, family, the general universal population that in due time their wounds will heal. Today I am thinking that this phenomenon is in itself flawed. Time can not be an independent healing factor. Healing of tissues comes with fibrosis in which case scar(s) are formed. Some scars are very small they can’t easily be seen, other scars are big and painless and only live as a reminder of a painful past whereas other scars swell into kelloids. A kelloid appears on fragile delicate tissues and they also vary. If time alone was sufficient there would be no need to break some scars surgically to create fresh wounds for proper healing.
There are two major flaws in the phrase “time heals all wounds”.
• First is the assumption that letting a wound be with time gets it healed. Some wounds end in sepsis and sometimes the whole body may get into septic shock unless it’s treated.
• The third is the fact that time was never a factor in the wounds and pain inflicted on a given individual be it physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally and even socially.
Let me put it to you that almost all (especially non tangible ) wounds are caused by the poverty of love in and around the person who suffers this affliction. This would imply that an equal or greater measure of love is needed for such wounds to heal. That love doesn’t have to come from the same person or the same community of people but I pray and hope that we all get to experience pure love in it’s true and deepest sense while we still traverse this world.
I can agree with the time phenomenon in regard to healing:
1. That in due time you get into the kind of space, find and have the person and/or community that will provide you with the environment that facilitates healing.
2. That in due time your scars will hurt less and the pain will be so mild and insignificant you don’t feel it’s weight. Sometimes, you’ll be reminded of the hurt but most of the time you will wear your scars like jewels on a crown.
3. That in due time you will find so much love and so much joy your broken pieces will form into a different beautiful but wholesome self.
In any of these and other cases; if he absence of love, compassion and accountability in our leaders, parents, elders etcetera fail the children of their land by creating circumstances that predispose them to wounds, we can’t tell them to allow only time to heal those wounds – we should be an active ingredient in the healing of hearts, minds and souls. If friends betray each other causing hurt to the hearts of those who trust them as their chosen family, it’s not sufficient to advise hurting people to rely on time to heal their wounds.
Love given over time, compassion expressed through periods, sessions, seasons and cycles of falling, rising, crawling, walking and breaking down some more and piecing together again will bring healing to the hearts that have broken.
If by way of our ignorance, indifference or sheer hatred (all an absence of love) we have wounded the hearts of children, other men and women, it is through love in and over time that healing will be realised.
Spread some love.
Be blessed and be a blessing.
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