Sounds strange, right ? But indulge my rambling ponder for three minutes:
I once heard Trevor Noah say he kept his circle very small and didn’t make friends easily because he fears to put someone in a position where they could fail him; and that he in turn didn’t want to put himself in that same position.
We are so afraid of hurt and pain that we would rather give up the best thing there ever could be – real connection, community, love at its core, the true essence of humanity.
Haven’t our forefathers said it already … That our greatest pleasure is to love and to be loved? But I get it ; truly. What I get more is that we are more afraid of love than we are of hurt. We are afraid of experiencing something so profound, so consuming. We fear to give parts of our being that are so delicate because then we don’t know what the other person will do with those pieces of ourselves. We are afraid of loving without clinging, carrying people in our hearts while at the same time setting them free. Does this by any means imply that the opposite of love is fear? Perhaps so….. Love involves an exchange of vulnerability and trust on both sides, whereas fear elicits withdrawal largely for self-protection.
I pray for you and I that we shall receive healing enough to open our hearts to receive love and reciprocate it. May we consciously step into that freedom. May we be sources of solace. May we experience liberative love.
Showers of blessings!
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