Tag: blog
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For the glory of God
One of the lessons I learnt early in life was to not have expectations of people. This also begs the knowledge and belief that I am not owed. The world doesn’t owe me. In the recent past, I am confronted with the fact that aside from not being owed, I am dispensable. We all are.…
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#8 Travel diary: Fascination around my hair
The stories of beauty, variations, pain, time, struggles, and adventures, traumas, angsts surrounding black hair have been around for ages. Now with technology and evolving standards of beauty, no one can possibly exhaust the complexity surrounding this topic. Many people have attempted to make easier the life of women and girls like of my skin…
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#5 Travel diary: The shouting black man
Their feet are swift, their bodies light, save for the old stiff-jointed grannies wheeling walkers. They walk like ants in many lines except they are not together. They are unaware of the other person and each person seems completely disconnected from the human environment around them. It is not in a mistrusting way; it is…
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Not everyone deserves proximity to your purpose
They say that as we grow older, our circles grow smaller. And perhaps that is not loss, but refinement. Yes, I still mourn some friendships. It was never an issue of betrayal or brokenness, but rather distance, time, inevitable change, perhaps the quiet evolution of becoming. And so I hold the memories gently ; they…
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Dear friend
I wish to celebrate you for your existence and presence in a world beyong me because you carry more light than you know into it. Never believe otherwise. Selfishly, let’s focus on my world and make this about your occupancy of a large space in this tiny universe of mine. Man, do you turn it…
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Face to face
Face to face and my tongue is tied. My racing heart and puzzled mind in utter wonder at how in their universe they deserve my meek smile, and I their cruelity. The only image in mind is that of their shouts when they say, “Smear some more… If it the image you have painted is…
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Take a pause
Life can move so fast; sometimes at my busiest, I don’t remember on Friday what happened on Monday. There have been too many microevents. It’s better to take a pause. Stop and look around before you miss life as it is unfolding. The world as it is today seems to have different settings in this…
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Tender souls
Gazing into the dark, holding gentle hands, I know not to let my mind wander because golden moments are simply what they are, and that’s what I’ll take this for. I don’t know what love is. I only know that I want you well. Your joy is my joy, your hurt pains me. Your touch…
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Context
Everything we see, hear, our encounters, when put in a context under different circumstances, would change completely our view and stand. I believe in context but especially in reason. However, sometimes we don’t get enough time or enough room to share about context. Every statement has a two parts; one is variable. Yesterday, while speaking…
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The moments between moments
The world has so few grand moments when you think of how we describe them The birth of a child, a birthday celebration, the anniversary, a graduation, engagement, wedding, a (desired/wanted) positive pregnancy result, a new job (dreamed of or not), a career milestone, a deal, “a breakthrough”,….. Every day, someone in some corner of…
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My little brother is my inspiration in this season….
…….and quite frankly, he is putting an indelible mark on me. This boy is 12. He has such a strong build for this age and thinks like he’s walked on this earth surface before. Some people get this while others don’t, as they voice observations that come off as completely indifferent to a child’s emotions.…
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Everyone has a story
Everyone has a story, Everyone has been through something (things) that changed them Everyone is hopefully evolving daily and even through moments And hopefully changing in all the ways that make us better and not bitter. So, don’t judge people by the chapter you walked in on
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Happiness in moments
If happy should be a destination, an aspiration, a goal, then what happens after and beyond happy? For something as fleeting, happy should only be enjoyed in moments; small and big ones alike. Like wind, moments sip through our hands. There is no constant grand pristine state of being or existence, unless you should be…
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No one can love you like you…
…cause no one knows you like you. No one knows the baby in you that needs soothing like you. No one has experienced your joy like you have, born your sorrow to its depth, seen life through your lenses, felt the longings of your heart, dreamed the dreams of your mind, lived the insecurities of…
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Love and Nurture
It’s often said that one shouldn’t speak about children and raising them unless they have had children of their own to raise. And yes, I absolutely believe that. I know nothing about raising one but I know a few things about being raised. Today I randomly came across a conversation between TD Jakes and Steve…
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Make mistakes …
“Make mistakes but don’t regret them. Regret is the hardest thing to carry when you get older.” This is the best advice I have heard today. Recently I had a huge imposter syndrome moment which is largely attributable to a period in which I had a long spell of fails and losses. I had lost…
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To dream
“Sometimes the ultimate dream is to be able to dream at all.” If there is anything a child should be given in their childhood and possibly to every adult daily on their lofe’s journey, it should be the space and the freedom to dream and the tools to act on their dream.
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Love yourself with tenderness.
When you love yourself, be deliberate and tender. You are uniquely you and no one can be a better you. You are God’s gift to the world; His masterpiece. When you look at yourself, say those same sweet things to you that you’d say to the person you love. Be unconditional while at it. Invest…